Why Young Professionals Struggle to Get Dates
Young people are the main people who are in the market to date and get in relationships. Dating and relationships can get complicated and even impossible while also trying hard to establish and maintain a fulfilling career. Young professionals should be able to have both the job and the relationship, but like most things in life it’s easier said than done. Instead of flourishing with both dating and careers, young professionals are struggling just to get the first date, let alone maintaining a fling or relationship. This is evidently unfortunate, and we’re going to explain why and what is working against them.
There’s simply not enough hours in the day.
When you’re at a job from 9-5 Monday through Friday, you’re left with very little free time to do much else. Once you’re taken care of all the things you need to get done when you’re off work, all you want to do probably is relax on your couch with a cocktail and your TV. Young professionals simply don’t have the time or the energy that a relationship takes. Relationships take a lot of tender love and care, and after being mentally drained from all of the work nonsense, sometimes you simply don’t have anything left to give.
Most dating apps are aimed at hooking up, not dates.
Classic dating apps like Tinder are usually better suited for college-aged adults that want to get laid. They’re not so great for young professionals that want to find someone to date and enjoy some good company with. These hookup apps that call themselves dating apps have become cliche and arguably trashy, and don’t attract the hard-working, professional types. Thankfully, new apps are aiming to be more about being social and meeting people and less about getting someone into your bed. A new app that would benefit young professionals who are looking for more of a connection instead of a one night stand is an app called Justselfies.
On the contrary, dating sites are too commitment based.
A young professional probably doesn’t want to sign up for Match.com to meet their potential spouse with a few clicks of a button, but that’s basically what adult dating sites are for. Dating sites are all about finding the love of your life and long term commitment. And let’s face it, most young people aren’t really ready for all of that yet.
It’s simply difficult to meet new people outside of work.
Most young professionals have to relocate for a job, especially right out of college. Relocating clearly means you’re in a new town with new people who you don’t know. Sure, you’ll meet people through work, but trying to date someone you work with and see every single day at your job is not a great idea. As the saying goes, don’t shit where you eat, right? You can try meeting new people at local bars, coffee shops, or even the gym, but let’s be realistic- it’s usually more difficult than that, especially for introverts. Introverts will have a harder time simply walking up to an attractive stranger to get their number. The fact that it’s so hard to meet new potential dates usually results in young people being single for such long periods of time.
Young professionals have varying intentions with what they want romantically.
Young people are all over the board with what they want to do with their love life. Some don’t want to date unless it’s leading to something serious, some want nothing to do with commitment, and others just want to go with the flow. Some simply have no freaking clue what they want. This clearly complicates things when two young professionals begin to see each other because you need to make sure from the get-go that you’re on the same page. But, more times than not, a duo dating won’t talk about what they want until it’s too late and feelings are already invested, and it usually ends sour if the two don’t want the same thing.
Young professionals can quickly become workaholics.
When you’re young and building a career and a name for yourself in the professional workplace, most people want to put their head in the ground and grind. People who have their eyes on the corporate prize- more money and promotions- can easily become workaholics. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that workaholics might have a considerably tougher time maintaining a functional love life. Even if a workaholic wants to date, their professional obsessions and habits could be a huge turn off to the other person.